Everybody’s Working For The Weekend
Posted on: January 17, 2020 | Children, Community, Famillies, Fatherhood, Friendship, Love, Motherhood, Parenting, Postpartum Mood and Anxiety Disorders, Relationships, Uncategorized
Thanks Loverboy! However, for many families, the weekends are just as busy (or even busier) than the weekends.
Did you know that taking the weekends to recharge can leave you even more drained? Find that time whether it be an hour here, a few hours there, or a whole day away to indulge. To indulge in Y.O.U! Your family loves YOU. Your little sleepless newborn babe loves you. You love YOU. You DO love YOU, right?!
In the words of one Miss Divine Mama Ru, “If you don’t love yourself, how the hell are you going to love somebody else. Can I get an “Amen!?”
Practicing the art of self-care, is a form of loving care. Loving care for yourself. As parents and caregivers, we naturally give and give and give. Eating the unwanted crust from the sandwich. Standing while scarfing down a quick bite. Rush to the bathroom quickly to get a pee in. I mean, we can’t even relieve ourselves in peace.
Allowing time for yourself is NOT selfish.
Say it with me “allowing time for myself is not selfish!” Because it’s not. It fact, it’s healthy. Enjoying a long catch-up conversation is not selfish, it’s self-care. Going to the gym is not selfish, it’s self-care. Saying ‘no’ is not selfish, it’s self-care. Enjoying that long awaited night out is not selfish, it’s self-care. Getting lost in a book quietly in your quiet place is not selfish, it’s self-care. Checking in with yourself by seeing a therapist, a chiropractor, a dentist, or taking a class, is not selfish, it’s self-care. Buying a new pair of pants to fit your new body is.not.selfish, it’s self-care. Heading out the door to work is not selfish, it’s self-care.
Have you ever been waited on by someone who was unhappy to be where they were. You sit down to enjoy a meal at a restaurant you’ve been craving. You and your friends are in the best mood and are just so excited to have an hour and a half together. Your server approaches, and they are a cloud in the mood. We don’t know their story, we don’t know what happened moments before your table was sat. But imagine if they had been given a moment to go and recompose themselves before waiting on your table. Knowing that they had needed a moment to check-in and do some quick self-care could have changed the whole dynamic. How we act and feel, and what we say and do affects those around us.
Whether it be intentional or not.
I know that very moment when my lid is going to blow. The kids feel it. My husband feels it. My circle feels it. I feel it. I go and I go and I go and I go, and when my inner being has had enough, it FORCES me to stop. What I have learned, is to read the signs before it boils over. I now purposely schedule me time. I will put it in my phone, my calendar, tell my accountability partner, tell my family. Knowing that there is a breather after a long day, week, month…gives me something to work for.